Over the summer I had the privilege of prototyping my new coaching program for gifted adults with a couple of encouraging, engaged (and engaging!) friends. I was pleasantly surprised by what I learned, most of which supported the research I've done and the services I plan to offer.
I was also surprised by the response of one friend's husband. Himself a gifted grownup, he said to his wife (my prototype client) "Really? You're going to look into your giftedness as an adult? Really?" In other words, "What's the point?"
Other than him calling into question the entire focus of my coaching practice, I understand. In fact, I understand a great deal. For those of us who have felt out-of-step with the mainstream all our lives, why look into the potential of giftedness and where it might lead us in the future? After all, whether identified as gifted children or not, I'd venture to say we all experienced misunderstanding, confusion, and rejection. Why bring all that up again? What impact could it possibly have on us as adults? Isn't "gifted" just a label we use to understand our quirky kids and attempt to obtain the educational interventions they need...and not a label relevant to adulthood?
The more time I spend interacting with gifted adults (whether they know they're gifted or not), the more I know I'm on the right track. I've talked with many of you who have finally experienced that "aha" feeling that accompanies the realization that many of your struggles past and present could be attributed to your giftedness: to those pesky gifted qualities--such as your energy, intensity, sensitivity, and your wacky sense of humor--and to how others react when you express those characteristics.
That "aha" feeling alone is reason to address your adult giftedness. Here are some additional benefits to acknowledging your giftedness as a grownup:
- You can make sense of your childhood experiences and experience healing from the wounds inflicted via those experiences.
- If you're a stay-at-home mom, you'll now understand why your role doesn't completely fulfill you. Your mind races, and as bright as your children probably are, reciting ABCs with them repeatedly won't meet your needs for intellectual stimulation. You can now admit--without guilt--your need for greater mental challenges and find ways to meet it.
- You'll comprehend why you've switched jobs so often. You have multiple interests and abilities, and once you've reached a status-quo point at work, your entire self wants to run toward a new challenge. Others may call this flaky; for you, this is survival. In realizing this, you can determine how to cope with it.
- You know why you don't connect with some people, and why those people sometimes give you the strangest stares. They truly don't understand what you're saying, and you can accept this.
- You know you need to find gifted others, and that when you do, they'll totally understand you. You'll find a tribe of people who will validate you and your experiences.
- You can leverage your gifted characteristics to your advantage. For example, you know that you frequently develop answers to problems before other people do. You may not know how you reach your conclusions, but you know you're right. You can now begin to trust and use your intuition more freely to serve yourself and others.
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